Membina Keluarga Bahagia

Khamis 25 Mac 2010, i teman hubby ke Jugra Base utk dgr ceramah agama bertajuk Membina Keluarga Bahagia - disampaikan oleh Ustaz Alwi, Ketua Penolong Pengarah, Bahagian Undang-Undang, JAIS. Sgt happening ceramah tu, mula kul 9.15pm, xsedar masa berlalu dh dekat 11pm. After ceramah, we all dinner kat warung tepi jalan - makan nasi goreng kg yg sedap x hengat, ayam masak pedas, sup cendawan yang wallah n telur rangup - sgt garing telur ittew.

Ni antara tips yg ustaz tu bg dalam melayari bahtera r/tangga. Bagaimana utk bahagia?

1. Suami / isteri perlu sekurang-kurangnya solat jemaah sekali dalam sehari. Hmm last i solat jemaah ngan hubby dlm 2mgu lepas kt umah Putrajaya. B4 ada anak kitorg selalu solat jemaah sesama. Bl dh ada anak, slow sket. Insya-Allah pasni kitorg kejar balik nikmat solat jemaah ni ye :)

2. Hendaklah suami selalu makan makanan yang diolah oleh tangan isteri - i akan masak weekdays bl balik keje awal. Selalunya balik lmbt n beli lauk je kat luar. Weekend pun deepends. If rajin i akan masak, if not kita makan luar. Heee. Insya-Allah once kita settle down dok umah baru nt i akan rajin2 masak utk hubby :)

3. Hendaklah suami / isteri selalu tidur bersama. Tidur bersama x semestinya berjimak. Sebelum tdo, tatap wajah suami / isteri. Nescaya gugur dosa kita pada hari tu. Banyaknye pahala org yg dh berkahwin ni ye? Memg best dapat tdo peluk hubby - rasa lengan hubby yg ketul2 tu :P Tp selalu Airel akan menyelit tgh2 n tdo dgn lasak huhuhu

4. Pasangan hendaklah cari kelainan yang ada pada pasangan sebagai 1 keserasian. Jadikan kelainan pasangan tu sbg 1 kebiasaan - if dia suka memancing, ikutlah pegi tasik temankan dia memancing. Tp if pasangan suka merokok jgn pulak digalakkan. Merokok itu HARAM ye tuan2 dan puan2. Mcm i, i suka menari. Ada 1 day tu mess nite Air Force kat Dorset Regency Subang, sume pegawai kena menari joget so nak xnak my hubby pun kena joget sama. Haha at least dia sporting u ol :) I pun xkesah if dia nk pegi main golf ke asalkan jgn tinggal solat n i tau dia kuar ngan sapa? If ngan ladies, ha siaplah!!

5. Ambil berat soal kasih sayang - Pasangan yg telah berkahwin jgn lg berhubung / berjupe dgn bekas kekasih. Ia amat2 menyinggung hati dan perasaan pasangan w/pun sekadar say hi. Kita patut tutup buku lama n buka buku baru. Kita perlu cinta 100 persen, bukan cinta sekadar di pinggiran, ok. Yg penting, kejujuran dlm perhubungan. Baru hubungan itu berpanjangan. Like me, i memang pantang if hubby ctc balik ex dia yg terlalu ramai ittew vice versa. Bcos i pun x nak dia terluka kalau i ctc my ex, that's y i elak my ex yg nak add i jd fren diorg dlm FB. Mana2 yg dh terjadik fren, i remove diorg lps dgr ceramah ustaz tu. I x rugi pun x kawan ngan diorg, kan?

So tulah serba sikit tips yg i sempat jot down ms ceramah tu. Semoga menjadi panduan berguna utk kita sume dalam menjalani kehidupan dan mendapat keredhaan Allah, insya-Allah.

AKC 2009

Alhamdulillah, last Wednesday i got an invitation letter to 2009 KDN's Anugerah Khidmat Cemerlang (AKC) Ceremony to be held on Tuesday, 30th March 2010. It's a precious achievement for my 2009 career - a lot of things got to be sacrificed then n now it's the happy return. Tq to all my bosses, colleagues n staff for the support n prayers. Not forgetting my beloved family - Abg, anak2, Ma n all.

p/s:
dh kedengaran kata2 yg kurang enak di belakang. mcm mana i bole dpt akc?
ada i kisah? i deserved it!!
m the 1 who struggled the planning n execution of nkra crime in kdn back in July 2009 together w my bosses - Mr Wong n Dato' R n a few others (u know who u r?) huh, to the rest, i just don't give a damn!!

Cabaran Hidup Bermadu

"Hidup bermadu ini tidak seindah yang dibayangkan. Ingin saya nasihatkan kepada saudari, sebelum kita terlanjur bercinta dengan suami orang dan bersedia untuk hidup bermadu, pertama sekali ambil cermin muka dan tataplah wajah anda sedalam-dalamnya. Bukan sekadar melihat kulit tapi melihat sampai ke air muka. Tanya soalan pada wajah itu, adakah wajah itu mempamerkan hati yang ikhlas? Adakah wajah itu pasrah menerima ketentuan tidak adil dan tidak diperhatikan? Adakah wajah itu mampu tersenyum jika diserang, dikeji isteri dan anak-anak isteri lain? Adakah wajah itu bersedia andai kata dipinngirkan suami yang sibuk melayan isteri lain? Adakah wajah itu boleh bersyukur jika suami tidak mengikut giliran yang adil dan mampukah berdepan dengan isteri yang ada andai kata suami sakit di rumah isteri yang lain? Adakah wajah itu mampu tersenyum andai kata disisih dan dipulaukan keluarga si suami? Adakah wajah itu ceria jika tidak dibenarkan melawat jenazah suami yang dikapankan di rumah isteri yang lain? Adakah wajah itu masih boleh tersenyum dengan ikhlas jika suami tidak pernah berhari raya dengan anda kerana memberi tumpuan kepada isteri lain? Adakah wajah itu mampu tersenyum jika nama anda tiada dalam wasiat atau mendapat bahagian paling sedikit dan adakah masih boleh tersenyum jika terpaksa memandu sendiri ke hospital kerana diri atau anak sakit disebabkan suami bersama isteri lain?"

Sumber: Luahan Rasa Bersama Puteri, Mingguan Malaysia Ahad 21 Mac 2010, m/s: 23).

Petikan di atas merupakan sedikit gambaran mengenai Pn ZAM dari Kuala Lumpur yang telah hidup bermadu sejak 11 thn lalu. Beliau isteri ke-2 dan hampir setiap masa merupakan ayah dan ibu kepada 4org anaknya.

Mengambil kira pengalaman beliau, pelbagai persoalan yg perlu dijawab dengan ikhlas oleh seorang rakan karibku.. Berat mata memandang, berat lg bahu yg memikul.. Pengalaman buruk beberapa kali terjebak dengan "milik" org membuatkanku terpaksa memikirkan perkara ini agar yg terindah buat rakan karibku itu bukanlah hanya sementara.. Dia masih muda, bijaksana, anak yg baik buat ibu bapanya serta pekerja yang mengkagumkan ketua dan jabatannya..

Aku percaya dia berhak mendapat lelaki yang lebih baik daripada yg sebelum-sebelumnya serta yang kini didambakannya.. Bukankah manusia itu Allah ciptakan untuk hidup berpasangan? Jika bukan sekarang, mungkin pada masa hadapan. Dia menguji kita dengan pasangan terdahulu supaya kita mendapat pasangan yang lebih baik pada masa akan datang.

Tetapi sekiranya memang "itu" yang terbaik untuk rakan karibku, aku pasrah dan mendoakan hanya yang terbaik utk dirinya..

Desa Saujana Putra, a home-to-be

Property Description:
- Yuran peguam percuma diatas S&P, 100% loan
- 1 Tingkat Banglo ada juga, hanya 4 unit (habis dijual)
- Individu Title sudah dikeluarkan
- Berdensiti Rendah hanya 36 unit sahaja
- Ada 2 jenis size 35' x 90' kaki (habis dijual) dan 40' x 80' kaki (1 unit shj)
- Keluasan binaan dari 1,925sq ft ke 2,300sq ft
- Binaan yang luas 4 bilik tidur, 3 bilik air & 2 dapur
- Tempat letak kereta berjubin seramik termasuk lanai
- Dinding Pagar hadapan batu & gril (pintu pagar 15')
- Siling bertinggi 12' (ada plaster siling)
- Dikelilingi oleh kemudahan komprehensif seperti lebuhraya, pasaraya, hospital universiti, pejabat pos dan stesen minyak
- Hanya 5 min ke Alamanda dan Bangi

p/s: Insya-Allah sebelum Dis 2010 dah boleh masuk. Yeay, x sabar nak decorate umah baru :)

Clubbing

I ada port makan n lepak baru kt Putrajaya ni. Klik www.kelabtasikputrajaya.org/index.htm Actly i penah dtg cni ms keje ngan Dato' CT dulu. We had a post cab metg once, somewhere in 2002/2003. I remembered i came with Tok Wan aka En. Harun Ramli, Dato' Ct's SUSK. Meetingnya x seberapa, mata i dok pandang keluar je cos the scenery was superb. Makanan dia pun wallah :) Then in 2008 before i left for DPA, En. Aziz who was my SUB in Research n Planning Div, KKDN organized a farewell lunch @ Kelab Tasik. We had buttered prawn (my fav), sweet sour siakap, kailan goreng ikan masin etc together w his wife n all the staff. TQ Boss :)

Then lama dh x datang Kelab, until last week when Dila ajak lunch kt cni. I had Penang fried kue tiow, Ina had fried mamak mee n Dila had Cantonese fried kue tiow. Hmm.. sedap gle sume tu!! Then last Sunday after we got back fm BP n dh kelaparan lepas pusing2 tgk rumah area Putrajaya, we had our lunch there. Airel loves the Cantonese fried kue tiow so much. Fira had plain rice n telur dadar, small size pun macam boleh makan utk 4 org.

Minggu ni je dh 3x we all (Ina, Eni, Dila n me) had lunch at Kelab. My sentence to invite them out is "Kita p clubbing x hari ni?" Clubbing refers to Kelab Tasik haha :) takkanla nak p clubbing cucuk langit tu kan? nauzubillahiminzalik. Waiters kat sanapun dh kenal we all. Kita tunggu nt Dila dapatkan membership card. Not sure how much? Bolelah pinjam card dia 4 discounts what not. Nx week kita p clubbing lagi ye kawan2 :)

Sijil Kepujian 2007

Tetiba i terjumpa gambar2 Sijil Kepujian Tahun 2007. Sijil Kepujian diberikan kepada 2nd tier, yg x dpt Anugerah Perkhidmatan Cemerlang (APC). I dianugerahkan Sijil Kepujian Tahun 2007 oleh Y.Bhg. Tan Sri Abdul Aziz, mantan KSU KKDN. Beliau sekarang Pengerusi SPR. Bijak, berkarisma & sgt mesra dgn pegawai & kakitangan. Ms majlis ni (Oktober 2008), i tgh mengandungkan Airel 5bln. Comel kan? hihihi *malu*

I juga dianugerahkan Sijil Kepujian Tahun 2008. Kalini oleh Y.Bhg. Dato' Sri Mahmood Adam, KSU KDN. Xde gambar cos sijil pun dihantar dengan tangan oleh Pembantu Am Pejabat (PAP). Huhuhu :(

Pencapaian thn 2009? Hm hm. Dengar2nya dpt APC. If so, Alhamdulillah rezeki anak2 :) Penghargaan yang diberikan dapat menaikkan semangat dan motivasi penjawat awam sebenarnya. Walaupun hadiah bukan ukuran, sekurang2nya sijil penghargaan menunjukkan khidmat bakti kita kepada negara & masyarakat dihargai :)

Gambar bwh, bersama Tan Sri, Pn. Suriani PRO KDN n Dato' R, TKSU 3P KDN. A big applause to Dato' too - my immediate boss when i 1st joined KKDN in Jan 2007. He taught me a lot!! We've been running tru thick n thin together s well. M such a lucky n grateful person for having a boss like him :)

EE: Erol's Engagement

Last Sunday 14 March 2010 my cousin w full name Khairul Nizar Jalil aka Erol got engaged w June, frm Segamat. Okla tu dua2 org Johor, senang raya nanti :) We all balik BP Jumaat 12midnite n tau2 je dh sampai kul 2 pg (biasala i masuk keta je mst zzzzz). Sabtu pg we all left Ma @ umah Mak n headed to Sri Medan. Overnite sana semalam then pepagi Ahad to Senggarang - umah bridegroom-to-be. The best part was to have Mama's sambal goreng. Walaweh, ngiler!! (bhs melayunye kecur ar liur). I tau sket2 je bhs jawa ni hehe. Sambal goreng dia lain drp yg lain, ada santan n mcm2 ingredients. X sama mcm sambal goreng biasa yg kering. Tema hantaran belah lelaki: merah cili, belah pompuan: ungu. Rombongan belah lelaki pakai baju tema kaler kelabu. Mengerlip2 badan my nanny - baju n tudung bling2, plus emas berkepuk2. Pergh, cayalah mak :) To Erol n June - congratulations n happy engagement. They'll get married in Oct 2010, insya-Allah :)

Pengesahan Taraf Berpencen

Puan,

PEMBERIAN TARAF BERPENCEN

Saya dengan sukacitanya memaklumkan bahawa Suruhanjaya Perkhidmatan Awam Malaysia telah bersetuju meluluskan pemberian taraf berpencen puan mulai 1 April 2010. Semoga puan akan menjalankan tugas dan tanggungjawab dengan lebih cemerlang pada masa akan datang.

Sekian, terima kasih.

"BERKHIDMAT UNTUK NEGARA"

t.t.
............................................
Bahagian Perkhidmatan
b.p. Setiausaha
Suruhanjaya Perkhidmatan Awam,
Malaysia

Alhamdulillah :)

Never Before

I didn't meet Dato' R on Monday n Tuesday bcos i didn't have to attend the meetings that he attended. He only called me on Monday morning, as usual, asking me to do this n that via phone. So i when i bumped into him yesterday, suddenly:

DR: Ha Aireen, how r u?
Me: I'm fine, To'. TQ
DR: Wah, i din c u for 2 days lah.
Me: Smiling :)
DR: Never before lah Aireen
Me: Smiling again but my heart says "Never before?"
Biar betul Dato' nih? Dia x ingat kot insiden kt PD dulu?
1 - After KKDN Web Site / Portal Worshop @ Tiara Beach Resort
2 - After KDN ISO Workshop @ Corus Paradise

Sampai skang, i phobia nk p PD :p

p/s: sapa yang tau, taulah hahaha

Double Celebrations

Ma & Aisy r celebrating their bday on 8 March 2010, which falls on Monday so we celebrated theirs on Sunday the 7th. The brides-to-be bought the choc banana cake n KFC. The mini party began at 6pm and ended at 8pm ~anak beranak aje. Yg paling sibuk of course cucu2: Aina, Airel, Aisy n led by Fira (precisely). TQ to Ninda & Tokda Fira who were there coincidently last weekend, attending their niece's wedg ceremony. We gave Ma the 2x bayar batik hehe. Sowi dh tgh bulan :P. The sistas gave her an Aldo handbag. Abg Yad gave fund to so called sponsoring the cake n KFC. To Ma - Happy birthday to u n love u so much. To lil Aisy Moto2 - be a good kid n make us proud in the future ya. Lots of love, Akak aka Ummi :)

Farah's Birthday

We celebrated Farah's bday yesterday. We organized the "perhimpunan haram" in the middle of General Office of PG. I asked Mr Wong n Pn Azlina out from having a discussion w THS - illegally ok, saying that Dato' R wanted to c them. Sorry Dato'!! I used ur good name but 4 a good reason hehe. Mr Wong was blushing cos i was so called "bluffing" but indirectly i helped him out frm hearing the bla bla bla... Next, i locked THS door fm outside then En. Razif b the MC, En. Mukhizam recited the doa n we sang the bday song like whispering to each other. So insane hahaha. Hidayah sponsored the don't wanna eat-the cup cake-bcos they were damn cute while Farah sponsored Domino's pizza, chicken wing n Coke. TQ all for coming :) We just like to work happily n this is 1 of the ways to ease the stress. Nx will be Dato' R turn. We've asked Hidayah to book cup cakes for him. So much of imaginations came into our mind to decorate the cuppies ~ golf, sexy girl, cat, moha logo etc etc. So wait till the day ya.

AJK Masakan aka Cooking Committee

I attended AGM BAKAT TUDM Jugra Regiment 2010 yesterday. BAKAT stands for Badan Kebajikan Keluarga Angkatan Tentera - an association to unite n look after the wives n family of armed forces, similar to PERKEP - Persatuan Kebajikan Keluarga Polis. I joined BAKAT since i was a kid, following Ma who was the ahli BAKAT since 1975 - 1997. She was a great Chairperson / Pengerusi BAKAT back in 1994-1995 of 25 RAMD. I had the opportunity to teach those children the Endang Dance in Pakit Camp, Sri Aman, Sarawak :)

When i married hubby in 2006, automatically i became a member of BAKAT. Although i was busy attending the Mass Comm Masters class in 2006, i did attend a few activities organized by BAKAT TUDM Jugra Regiment - cooking class, BBQ etc. Bcos we lived in the quarters there, so i cud spend my time for BAKAT activities.

2007 was quite a busy year for me. I reported duty in KDN (KKDN at that time), attending courses etc that have limit me from joining BAKAT. I cud only meet up w BAKAT members when we attended mess nite somewhere in KL. 2008 became worse, when i attended DPA that i've to focus on my duty. I only met up w them during the CO's daughter wedding cememony in Kelana Jaya.

So when i was appointed as the Culture Committee in BAKAT 2009, it was quite a surprise. I was lucky because the team members will keep me updated w the activities etc. I attended Ladies Nite function in Pulai Springs Resort last year, wearing an "over" bling2 dress which is quite similar to Dato' CT's during her launching album ~CTKD~ this year. Mine is dark chocolate. It costs me ~RM400, by Envee Alamanda. So who says her wardrobe is only filled w thousands of dollars kind of dress? hahaha p/s: A special tq to Ina who noticed the dress :P

And last 2 days were double shocked - i was appointed as the Cooking Committee of 2010 y'all. Hahaha. The head of the committee is Kak Hamidah, wife of Lt. Col Halimat who stays outside of the base. I m her assistant who also stay outside the base. My assistant is working (an airwoman) who was very hesitant when i approached her that day. Her name was picked up by the Chairperson, not me so what the h@#*? We are all working so come on ok? B a smart lady. We can tolerate in organizing at least twice cooking classes monthly. Hmm, out of the blue i was thinking of Cik Zu (*wink, wink*) hehe

So now i need to update the log book n wait until the next meeting with committee members to plan and execute the activities of 2010. Wish me luck :) Not forgetting to wish all the women out there a very "Happy Women Day 2010".

p/s: Still deep in my heart, Ma was the best Chairperson ever. 2 thumbs up to her!!

Hidayah's Birthday

Her birthday falls today, 6th March which is a day b4 Farah's on the 7th which is also a day b4 Ma's & Aisy's which is on the 8th March. But we planned to celebrate Hidayah's 1 day earlier. So Farah bought the cup cake yesterday n i brought the gift. We had the mini party in our cosy office, of cource. Tq to Mr Wong, En. Razif, En. Mukhizam, Pn. Azlina, Hisham n Kak Nik, the previous PPT under BPPP (miss the team so much!!). Not forgetting Naiemah, Bukhary n Hafify. Tq 4 joining. To the birthday girl - many happy returns to u!! TQ 4 all the support n hard work. p/s i gave Farah her pressie too yesterday. Just can't wait until Monday. She was caught by surprise hehe. Happy birthday buddy. May all ur wishes come true :)

Giraffe Pool

Sabtu petang, 27 Feb 10, Fira n Airel mandi pool kt depan umah. The pool was Airel's birthday gift frm Cik Ira. TQ Cik Ya - Fira said :) Maghrib, Fira sibuk nk join i solat. Bagusla kecik2 dh tunjuk minat :) Like mother like daughter kan?

Kg Pinang @ Alamanda

Baru dapat update blog. Bz gile over the weekdays. Ni pun nk update pasal last weekend in putrajaya. Since Friday was a Maulud Nabi public holiday, so we got back to Putrajaya on Thursday nite. Sampai umah sume pengsan. Esoknya lepak umah je sambil layan budak2 tgk dvd esp cinderella (xhabis2, asyik ulang 4,5x) n layan tamilla apa lg. Ptg we went to Alamanda, met up w Opah & Fira's mummy (s). They went there to c a wedding gallery. We had dinner at my fav spot during Fridays w gossiping colleagues - Penang Village aka Kg. Pinang. I had bandung cincau n d superb nasi goreng tomyam. Wallah!!